About 13 years ago, I went on a first date.  We met via Craigslist Personals of all god forsaken places!  (this was before it really just became solely for transactional sex).  We emailed back and forth and then met at a bar where a friend was bartending that evening.  It almost wasn’t a real date – I had a few friends with me.

About a year ago, I was working with my friend, coach, and teacher, Kira Sabin, and we were recording a podcast. In a moment of describing how I had previously shown up in relationships, I described myself as emotionally slutty. I think I actually giggled when the words came out of my mouth, but I also loved them immediately. It was the perfect descriptor of how I had shown up for years.